A small triangular cushion could be a game-changer in your lovemaking: the “ Sex Pillow ”.

This type of pillow is specially designed to support certain parts of your body to make intercourse easier… and add creativity to a sexual position you already know!

These accessories are called orthopedic pillows (ahem, ahem!), triangular pillows or simply sex pillows.

3 good reasons to integrate the “Sex Pillow” into your sexual activities

First of all, these pillows will not sag under body weight like a regular pillow.

They will increase or decrease the height of your back, your hips or any other part of the body that needs adjustment during sex.

In addition, the ” Sex Pillow ” will release pressure on sensitive areas.

Different models for different needs

Whether you need light support or want a versatile sex pillow that allows you to try different options, there are several models available on the market.

You can order a “Sex Pillow” in the shape of a heart, with a removable segment, with bells, etc.

Most of these accessories are available online, which is great when you want to be discreet in your shopping.

How to choose a first sex toy and integrate it into your sex life?

Each month, Anne-Marie Ménard (alias In bed with Anne-Marie ), expert in sexology and relationships, answers a question asked in a private message by one or one of her subscribers. In order to benefit everyone, she develops her knowledge and her tips on the subject, so that we stop (finally!) feeling guilty about our pleasure, our body and our emotions!

“Hello Anne-Marie. I’m slowly starting to open up and I’m developing a great curiosity about the world of sex toys and I have a lot of questions on the subject. As I have never purchased one, I would like to know how to choose my first sex toy? In addition, I wonder how to tell my spouse about it? Is it possible to develop an addiction? I would like someone to enlighten me on the subject. Thanks in advance! »

Hello to you and thank you for the relevant question!

At first glance, it’s true that the world of sex shops and sex toys can be intimidating. Many myths still persist on this subject and the taboos surrounding the sexual sphere still color our perception of them. Thankfully, that’s changing Do you know what? Since the pandemic , erotic shops report having reached record sales of sex toys ! In other words, we are witnessing a significant rise in their popularity.

Through sex education increasingly present on social networks and feminist movements, toys also seem to have found their place in the sexual revolution we are currently witnessing. Their use is increasingly normalized… and appreciated! But how do you find your way around in a universe where the possibilities seem endless? In fact, you wonder how to integrate toys into your sexuality . Here is a little guide for beginners!

There are so many options!

When choosing your first sex toy, it is important to ask yourself: what part of your body do you want to stimulate and/or explore? As there are toys for all the most erogenous zones of your body, you will have to determine the zone to privilege. Do you want to stimulate the clitoris , the G-spot or even both? Would you rather explore other areas such as the nipples or the anal area ? Do you want to explore an area that is naturally sensitive in you and already enjoy toy-free stimulation, or would you like to learn to develop or learn about another area?

These questions are important since they will direct you to the right toy for you. For example, if you want to stimulate both the external and internal clitoris (G-spot), you could go for a “rabbit” type toy to enjoy double stimulation. If you want to stimulate only the clitoris, why not opt ​​for a toy that offers, for example, air pulse technology .

Once you have located the area to be stimulated, you will then have to choose what type of stimulation you are looking for. If you have never tried a toy before, it may be more difficult to make a choice at this level. So, if you have the opportunity to go to the store to try out the different textures (glass, silicone, etc.) and stimulation techniques such as vibration or air pulse, this could greatly help you make a good choice.

Choosing a new toy is a bit like trying a new recipe with new foods! You have to taste to know if you like it and it’s really by experimenting with the different stimulations that you can possibly determine which is your favorite.

Another little trick: if you can’t get around, it’s easy to find reviews on the different toys, so it will still be possible to get a good idea of ​​the general appreciation of the toy.

At what price?

Then, since there are different ranges of sex toys , it will be necessary to establish a budget. Two schools of thought are available to you:

• Some people will prefer to choose less expensive toys to try out the different stimulation options that are available. Subsequently, these people will choose to invest more for better quality sex toys according to their preferences. The catch with doing this is choosing a less expensive toy that doesn’t necessarily represent what a good quality toy might offer.
• This is why others will prefer to invest in a quality and reputable toy from the outset. It can really be worth the extra investment to get a toy that offers more comfortable material or even more stimulation options. It’s up to you to see which strategy you want to use and what budget to invest.

How to ask his or her partner to include sex toys in our sexuality?

Admittedly, it can be tricky to ask your partner to include sex toys if it hasn’t been done before. So, I suggest you first have a conversation with him or her on the subject. You can ask this person about their perception of sex toys, their experience with them and tell them that you would like to try the experience as a duo!

It might be necessary to reassure your partner by telling them that you don’t want to include toys out of lack or dissatisfaction, but more out of curiosity and a desire to share something new together.

Read also: Why masturbating is good for your health!

If you feel a certain reluctance and your partner seems to hesitate, this is a great opportunity for you to prepare an evening in which you will carefully choose toys for his satisfaction. The purpose of this evening? Make him live an experience that will convince him or her to let go in this universe (with consent , of course!). Sometimes, the simple fact of having a positive experience can open many doors and your partner will have the chance to see that toys are just accessories that diversify and fuel sexual intercourse.

Quick tip: You can start by including toys that don’t look like a body part . This will help partners not feel in competition with the toy. Indeed, there are neutral toys that have neither a phallic nor a vulva shape and which can please both partners. You can easily find these toys in erotic shops by asking advice from the advisers.

Is it possible to get addicted to sex toys?!

This is a widespread myth! While it is wrong to believe that using sex toys can lead to addiction, I strongly suggest that you diversify your masturbation routine that you are likely to develop with the use of toys. Your body might actually get used to this type of stimulation and find it difficult to achieve orgasm with other practices. Bet on variety and have fun!

No reason to deprive yourself of it!

It is because they help us to diversify the sensations that they add spice to our sexual relations . Additionally, many women report having reached orgasm for the first time through toys , so now it can be said that sex toys are making their way into our bedrooms. Why deprive yourself of it? These objects are there for only one thing: pleasure!

Finally, do not hesitate to go to the store to ask for advice. The people in the shop are trained to give you the best possible advice and guide you to… 7th heaven!